Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. ~ Colossians 3:13 KJV
My dear readers there is nothing more painful than unresolved family conflict. Arrogant in-laws, stubborn teenagers, or jealous stepchildren can bring ruin to a happy home. Even though problems like whose turn it is to take out the trash are aggravating, they can be resolved with little disruption to family life.
However, some problems may become challenge, like the son who engages in a homosexual relationship, or a mother-in-law who destroys a woman’s marriage, an alcoholic father who abuses his wife and children, or the teenage daughter who has become addicted to opioids.
Yes these situations are real, and sadly they do occur in Christian families. While some broken relationships are healed over time, others may fester for months or even years. It’s because someone has not been able to let go of the pain.
A family is a basic social unit that consist of parents and their children. They are considered together whether they dwell in the same place or are miles apart. A family can be divided under one roof, or be as close as the other side of the world.
The survival of a family depends on the descisions they make and the directions that they take. See it is a known fact that if a family starts out wrong, they will ultimately become torn apart.
Prayer is the answer for family unity because we find that WHEN a family prays together, the family stays together. The strained relationship between children and parents can be traced to the children’s disregard of their parents…..
Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. ~ Colossians 3:20 KJV
…..and the parents disregard of the Lord.
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. ~ Proverbs 22:6 KJV
In order to have a better home life we should make Christ the center of everything that we do. Somebody has to be the one that says for God we live and for God we’re going to die. Somebody has to be that voice that says we got our eye’s on the prize. Somebody has got to be the one who stands up and says as for me and my house we’re going to serve the Lord.
Dear friends, everybody can’t act foolish, everybody can’t be the trouble makers, everybody don’t need to be the mess starters, somebody has to be the bigger and better person.
Yes somebody has to be the voice of reason, somebody has to be the fire extinguisher, somebody got to have some good sense, somebody has to be the patient one, somebody has to be the peacemaker, yes somebody has to be the one committed to keeping things together. Because together we stand, and divided we fall!
If you are reading this, I want you to know that you can overcome you’re family problems.
I want you to know that the family is worth fighting for.
And since it’s worth it, YOU have to be the bigger person in your disputes. God placed you in the family to build it up, not to tear it down.
If family madness has consumed your happiness try these 6 steps:
- Get a pen and paper.
- Write down all of your hurt.
- Place it in an envelope.
- Tie it to a balloon.
- Lift it towards the sky.
- Let it go.
I know that it broke your heart, I know that it hurt you in the worst way, but I encourage you to make up your mind today, and Let Go Of The Hurt.